Codependent No More: A Group Coaching Opportunity for Clergy in the Dakotas and Minnesota Annual Conferences!
If you wake up every day focusing on making everyone else happy (except yourself), emotionally drained, feel immense amounts of pressure and demands to meet everyone’s emotional/spiritual need, struggle with guilt and making decisions, find yourself walking on eggshells around others, and almost forcing joy most of the time when around others, this is a MUST DO group experience!!
This group starts on Thursday, Aug. 10 from 12-1 p.m. on zoom for 12 weeks.
The group will be capped at 8 participants, but if there is a larger interest, another group time will be offered.
“The Codependency No More group has been helpful for me to not only process my life experiences that carry over into the way I act and react within ministry, but it also made me realize I am not alone in my experiences in life and ministry. I have learned more about myself and my family, and I now discern what I need in order to live a healthier life as I create and maintain boundaries within relationships in my life. I’ve already noticed a change for the better in my life and relationships and I’m so thankful and proud of how I react in stressful situations because of the work I am doing in this group.” -South Dakota UMC Pastor
“Codependent No More has helped me to start digging into the hard work of discovering what healthy boundaries look like, in both life and ministry. As I learn more about who I am, and about what codependency looks like, I have been able to start making healthy changes in my life, both personally and professionally. I'm grateful for Stephanie Moore, and for our small group of being engaged in this hard, but necessary work together.” Pastor Nick Scutari, First UMC, New Ulm, MN
Codependent No More
group coaching is led by Stephanie Moore, founder of Moore Counseling Group in Sioux Falls and a licensed mental health counselor. She is a pastor's wife (Charlie Moore, Sunnycrest UMC in Sioux Falls, SD) and the daughter of a pastor. Stephanie can relate to the specific issues faced by spiritual leaders and their families and the challenges that contribute to stress, burn out, and depression/anxiety.
If you are interested in giving an hour a week to your health and healing as a pastor, register here
. The funding is provided by Lilly grants provided to both the Dakotas and Minnesota Annual Conferences. You only need to buy the book “Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself”
available on Amazon
and commit to one hour for 12 weeks. The registration deadline is Friday, Aug. 5. Upon registration, Stephanie will reach out to you directly to discuss group parameters.
The concept of codependency has a negative connotation—but the reality is it is literally the definition of codependency mirrors the “Midwest Nice” culture, common characteristics in church dynamics and culture, and how must of us were raised- with all good intentions of course. This has created a perfect storm with MANY people now struggling with this, especially those in ministry and helping professions! If we do not get a handle on our own behaviors that contribute to poor boundaries, guilt, and self-blame, then professions in ministry, humanities, and social services will no longer exist in 10-20 years due to excessive burnout! Here are some common characteristics of people struggling with codependency:
- You have trouble articulating your emotions and feelings.
- You want to please everyone.
- You feel the need to fix others.
- You struggle to set clear boundaries in your life.
- You sacrifice your own wants and needs to appease others.
- You are loyal to a fault.
Stephanie Moore has guided and coached 10 different Codependent No More
Group experiences. It is an amazing transformation of each person’s ability to be clear about their right to be a human being and to be treated with love and respect by anyone they interact with. Most people entering the ministry are naturally compassionate, giving people. However, many wonderful loving church leaders feel guilty for expecting others to treat them with the same compassion and love back. We do not have to apologize for the essential human need of love and compassion that Jesus gives us permission to demand and expect from others!